I did my undergraduate work at Goddard College, a progressive school (John Dewey was a major influence). It had 150 students when I entered in 1960. No tests, no grades, just learning for its own sake.

I developed an interest in Kierkegaard, Heidegger, and Buber, and so I went to Drew, where Stanley Hopper and Will Herberg were teaching. When the Drew graduate faculty fell apart because of a dispute, I followed Hopper to Syracuse. I did a doctoral thesis (1976), called Death’s Second Self. In the course of the writing, the key ideas of the You-I account occurred to me, but the revolution in infancy research had not yet happened. My present work is a development of the dissertation with the help of the later evidence.

After teaching in the Honors Program at the University of Houston (to which I still have a connection), I immigrated with my family to Israel. In 1989, on being called to do army service in the Occupied Territories, I refused and went to the brig. I reflected on the experience in Confession from a Jericho Jail (Grove Weidenfeld, 1992).  Here are links to some of my more recent political writings.

I have a son named Benny who is a composer-musician and a daughter named Talya who is a physical therapist. I am married to Roni Ben Efrat, whose children are Ruti and Yonatan, and there are grandchildren. It is odd that, to a grandpa, the world may seem dull and routine for much of the time, but there is nothing so exciting as to watch one’s grandchild discovering it: